Category Archives: 30-day Blogging Challenge: The Single Woman

I Had to Stop

… with my #100HappyDays blog series. I just can’t keep up! 😀

I’ve got tons of backlogs for my other blogs, mainly Pinay Reviewer and Certified Foodies, so I decided to stop that blog series here. However, I will continue with my 30-day Single Woman blogging challenge, which has now stretched to over 30 weeks. 😀

I like the questions / topics for that blogging challenge, so I will go ahead with it. I just wanted to say I decided to stop with my #100HappyDays entries. Maybe I’ll do a weekly “Things I’m Thankful For” series instead. Let’s see. 🙂

I’m hoping to get back on track with all my tasks for my blogs. I’m also planning on changing the layout of Certified Foodies since it’s our blog’s 4th year anniversary. It’ll be a completely new look so I’m excited! 🙂

Okay, that’s it for now. If you’re reading this, thanks. Have a lovely week!

I’ll leave you with this photo of me photo-bombing my nanay during our Potipot Island getaway.

I wasn’t expecting people to react about my legs being exposed in this photo. I didn’t even realize that I haven’t shown my legs EVER in any photo I’ve posted online, so I understand why they were surprised. 😀

Day 2: Being Single Sometimes Sucks

It’s Day 2 of my take on The Single Woman 30-day blogging challenge. Here’s the topic, which I find very amusing:

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Though I’m happy where I am now, I’d be a hypocrite if I say that I’m perfectly okay and 100% happy being single. There are times when it sucks.

Though I’m very close with my bro, my mom and my best friends, and they’d be more than glad to join me in whatever I feel like doing, it’s different when you’re with someone romantically special. It’s hard to explain. It’s like sharing your life and loves with someone who wasn’t there for most part of your life… and you’re getting to know each other through various activities like traveling and even doing artsy or crazy stuff, and still ending up in awe of this one person who you feel is your long-lost soulmate… and, yes, the making love part, of course. 😛

I can’t really pinpoint a specific day or moment when being single sucked the most, but I can give you a few times when I miss being in a romantic relationship.

Valentine’s day – I know, this is such a cliche answer, but it’s when every couple seem to be all sweet to each other and they feel the need to let the whole world (read: Facebook, Twitter or Instagram) know about it. I’ve never been a big fan of Valentine’s Day. I don’t think it’s a special day at all. I prefer to celebrate anniversaries or monthsaries (yeah, I can be that cheesy 😀 ).

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New Year’s Eve – For me, Christmas is for family, New Year’s Eve is for couples. I don’t know, but that’s how it’s been for me. I guess kissing someone at midnight, just before the first second of the new year approaches, is sooo romantic. 😀 And I miss that.

Whenever I see a couple on my Facebook news feed who I know, in real life, are best friends or are really in love, or I watch a Youtube video of a wedding or proposal. I know, I shouldn’t be watching these videos or looking at their photos, but I sometimes feel the need to remind myself that I miss feeling loved and being loved by someone. With how busy I get, I sometimes forget that it’s one of the things that makes  me happy. And yes, I still believe in love… I believe in love so much that I won’t settle for anything less than true love. 🙂

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Watching movies, especially when the characters profess their love for each other or they express how they accept each other completely and lovingly. Ugh. Most of the time, that tears me up. I guess this helps in keeping me from becoming a cold-hearted bitch. 😀

Giving advice to my friends who are in relationships. Since I’ve been in almost every kind of romantic relationship you can think of, my friends feel like I can give them a sound advice when they’re having love troubles. And I believe I do, but it kinda reminds me of how awesome of a lover I am… but, here I am, single. That sucks. 😀

Singing songs about love. I love to sing. I now sing while working, cleaning my room, putting my makeup on, just doing my usual after-bath routine or even when I’m trying to sleep. So when I hear songs that I used to dedicate to someone special, I couldn’t help but reminisce. Good thing I can always hit on the Next button to listen to another song. But, yes, listening to songs that remind me of my past loves sucks at times, especially when it’s about people I truly cared about.

I’m not a fan of PDA (public displays of affection) ’cause I like to keep things in private. So, when I see couples who are showing just the right amount of affection in public, especially when the guy is a complete gentleman, I feel a tinge of envy. Just a tinge. 😛

Sometime around my birthday. I guess it’s because, 10 years ago, I envisioned myself to be in a loving relationship at 30+. This is probably the only time that being single has been consistently suck-y for me. 😀 But, I get over it after a few hours.

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It’s Day 2 and it seems like I can’t write a short blog post around the topic of the day. 😀 I’m more chatty in written form and I tend to let my brain loose when I’m blogging. 😀

Day 1: Why Are You Still Single?

So, it’s day 1 of my take on The Single Woman’s 30-day blogging challenge. Of course, the topic is all about probably the most asked question by people, especially my relatives, when they see me: “Why are you still single?”

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This question, for me, is what I consider the most irritating personal inquiry someone can ask a single woman or man. I mean, is there even a correct answer to this? Should I answer honestly or make up some random bullshit just to shut you up? And if I give you an honest answer, how badly would you judge me? Would you even listen or just interpret my response based on what YOU think you know about me?

I’ve been asked this question many times, and what’s funny is, every time, it’s someone who I don’t even consider a friend or someone I’m close with. Yes, even our relatives who feel like it’s okay to ask me that question, they’re not playing any important part in my life to even deserve to know the reason why I’m still single (some are even unhappy in their own relationships or are in unhealthy ones). Only my closest friends know exactly why and, for the sake of this 30-day blogging challenge, I’ll let you in on the REAL reason why I’m still not married to anyone at this point in my life.

But, first, how do I answer this question? I have tried every answer in the single woman book and nothing seems to shut people up 😀 :

  • “I’m busy with work” or “I’m too busy right now” – They’ll respond by saying I should make time since I’m not getting any younger, like it’s something you can just add to your to-do list.
  • “I have no time for a boyfriend now” – They’ll usually give me the “Are you serious?” kind of look, or they’ll say I have high standards. And I’m like, “Are you seriously telling me to settle with just about anyone just because I’m over 30?!”
  • “I’m seeing someone but nothing serious” – This triggers more questions, so I stopped using this, though I was actually dating someone at that time. Some of the questions that were thrown at me were, “Where is he? Why is he not with you?”, “Why are you still single on Facebook?” (Ugh. Who says that’s now a measure of a true relationship?), “When are you getting married?” (I just said it’s nothing serious and you want us to get married?! 😀 ) and a lot more facepalm worthy questions. 😀
  • “I’m just having fun”, or “I’m enjoying being single for now” – Again, they feel like I should be desperate now to be a wife or a mother. 😀 People need to understand we have different priorities in life.

Here’s the thing: the main (and REAL) reason why I’m still single is I haven’t found anyone who made me truly, madly, deeply fall in love with him. If you really know me, you probably already know that I’ve been with many guys and 2 girls (surprise, surprise). There have been only 2 people who I know I truly loved – my first love who I was with for over a year, and my last serious relationship whom I spent 5 years of my life with. Since then, I’ve dated a few guys, but none of them made me want to settle or commit.

I don’t have high standards. Okay, maybe a little, but I feel like all of us have high standards and we just throw them all out the window once we’ve found that one person who would change our minds. I haven’t found anyone yet who made me feel like I want to stay, be with him and see where and how things will go.

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