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Musings about The Mistress : Not a Review

I just finished watching The Mistress, a Filipino / Tagalog movie starring John Lloyd Cruz and Bea Alonzo. The story revolved around mistresses, secret affairs and other typical scenarios you’d see in a Filipino movie – rich boy falls for poor girl, they can’t be together. Since I basically almost summed up what the story is about in this first paragraph, needless to say, this ain’t a review.

The Mistress starring Bea Alonzo and John Lloyd Cruz

In case you haven’t watched the movie yet, (SPOILER ALERT!!!) John Lloyd plays the role of Eric / JD Torres. He’s an architect and the son of wealthy businessman Rico (Ronaldo Valdez) and Regina Torres (Hilda Koronel). Bea is Sari Alfonso who is a seamstress who came from a poor, big family led by her mother Carmi Martin. Eventually, you’ll know that Sari is Rico’s mistress, and JD / Eric later finds out about this, but still pursues Sari.

You might be wondering now why I’m writing this blog post about the movie with no intention of reviewing it. I guess there were lines and scenes from the movie that hit me. Sure, I’ve been the other woman and on the cheating end, so you’d really expect that The Mistress has affected me in a way.

Yes, I admit, it did, especially the part where JD said Sari deserved someone who is completely hers, who she didn’t have to share with anyone else – in short, she deserves more than leftover love. I realized this a long, long time ago and I’ll never put myself in that situation again ’cause I know now how it feels to be the cheater, the other woman and the clueless girlfriend, and how good it is to be with someone who’s got eyes for only you. Whenever I deal with boys (for me, real men are monogamous) who act and talk like they’re God’s gifts to women, I keep telling myself I deserve better.

And THAT, ladies and gentlemen, is why I’m still single.

 

The Blame Game

Aside from the obvious effect on me of this movie, what surprised me was how mature Bea’s character was. Her mother (Carmi) was a mistress too. After everything with JD and Rico got all messed up, her mother was apologizing for what Sari is going through ’cause she felt like it was her fault – she wasn’t a good example.

After years of watching select Filipino / Tagalog movies, I didn’t expect Sari to say that it was not her mother’s fault, that no one else is to blame but herself. This scene made me stop and start writing this post.

I didn’t grow up in an ideal environment – by ideal, I mean loving parents, happy childhood, financially stable. If you see me talking about my nanay most of the time, there’s a big reason for that – I have an absent father (I blogged about this a couple of times here I believe) who was jobless, and mentally and physically abused me when I was a kid. My nanay struggled to make ends meet and to send us to decent schools. It was her priority – to make sure we get a good education. Yes, people, all these happen in real life, not just in Filipino movies.

Make peace with your past

Whenever I see or hear people blaming others, especially their parents, for who they turned out to be, I can’t help but be irritated. There are many people who were raised in the worst situations, but they managed to come out of it alive and kicking. And, I’m proud to say, I’m one of them. However, I can’t deny the fact that having a mother who loved me unconditionally and was ready to sacrifice everything for us helped in a major way.

What I’m saying is if you don’t stop the blame game and if you start taking responsibility or ownership for whatever you’ve accomplished or how far you’ve gone in your life, you will not move forward. All your decisions were your own. All the paths you took were because you led yourself down that road. Unless someone forcibly dragged you there or made you do something that will ruin your life, YOU are YOUR OWN responsibility once you reach adulthood.

 

Be Better

In the same way, stop saying you’re stuck in whatever situation you’re in because of your past. You have all the chances in the world to change your situation. The question is, are you ready to take action?

Be Better

Sure, it’s easier said than done. That’s the point. It has to be done. You can start with small steps and figure out your way from there.

Respect yourselfLet go.

Move forward.

Be happy.

Make yourself happy.

And don’t cheat or be the other woman/man.

Love.

Love deeply.

 

By the way, that love-making scene between Bea and John Lloyd was HOT! Finally, no more cheesy love scenes. :))

Also, am I the only one who’s been expecting Ronaldo Valdez to have a heart attack from the first time I saw him in the movie? LOL I think they should stop giving him characters with heart problems.

On Beliefs

I remember a few months ago, I was chatting with a long-time friend of mine. Over the years I’ve known him, we’ve flirted here and there, but never officially dated. We lost communication for about six years until he accidentally saw me on Facebook this year. And I was quite surprised by how he turned out.

He’s one of the naughty guy friends of mine back in my late 20s, so I couldn’t believe that he became an extremely religious guy – a devoted Christian. He’s active in his Church and never in a million years did I ever think he’s to lecture me about my liberalism.

Believe

It was all good, really. He wasn’t pushing his religion on me, like most religious / spiritual people I know whose self-righteousness I find ludicrous. And I made him promise that when we see each other again that he’ll never talk to me about his religion or his beliefs, what he read in the Bible, etc. I was being sarcastic ‘cause I know religious people like him can’t help  but preach to hopefully entice, rather invite people to join their Bible study group or something.

I can’t remember exactly what happened, but while we were chatting, we came into this argument after I was pissed by his inconsistency. He was being naughty one second and then a few minutes later, he was all preachy about right and wrong. I’m like, what the hell?!

So, I continued arguing with him, telling him he was a hypocrite and I was blocking every reason he spews my way. It came to a point that I was already mocking him for his beliefs and his lack of consistency in them. And I’ll laugh when all he can use to reason out was “… it says in the Bible”. In short, we ended that conversation with a heavy heart. I distinctly recall feeling like I won that argument.

After a few days, I realized what I did. I hated other people pushing their beliefs on me, but I never thought, even for a second, that I was doing EXACTLY what I was accusing him of. Upon further contemplation about it, I sent him a message and apologized for how I behaved. I told him exactly what I realized. He didn’t say a word, and just accepted the apology. And I made him promise that it was the last time we’ll talk about our beliefs and religion.

And I believe that’s one of the major problems we have as humans. We don’t want other people shoving their beliefs down our throats when, unknowingly, we’re guilty of the same sin.

Throughout the years, I realized this as I continued to mature mentally and emotionally. When someone’s arguing with me about something I strongly believe in, I listen intently and ponder if I should respond. If I don’t find any reason to do so, I just let them believe they’re right. Or, I just change the subject altogether. *LOL*

TO EACH HIS OWN. An expression I’ve overused this year. And I intend to keep that in mind. I will continue to speak my mind, but when I’ve reached a point when I see it’s become senseless, I’ll shut up as a show of (feigned) respect. 😉

On Beliefs

I remember a few months ago, I was chatting with a long-time friend of mine. Over the years I’ve known him, we’ve flirted here and there, but never officially dated. We lost communication for about six years until he accidentally saw me on Facebook this year. And I was quite surprised by how he turned out.

He’s one of the naughty guy friends of mine back in my late 20s, so I couldn’t believe that he became an extremely religious guy – a devoted Christian. He’s active in his Church and never in a million years did I ever think he’s to lecture me about my liberalism.

Believe

It was all good, really. He wasn’t pushing his religion on me, like most religious / spiritual people I know whose self-righteousness I find ludicrous. And I made him promise that when we see each other again that he’ll never talk to me about his religion or his beliefs, what he read in the Bible, etc. I was being sarcastic ‘cause I know religious people like him can’t help  but preach to hopefully entice, rather invite people to join their Bible study group or something.

I can’t remember exactly what happened, but while we were chatting, we came into this argument after I was pissed by his inconsistency. He was being naughty one second and then a few minutes later, he was all preachy about right and wrong. I’m like, what the hell?!

So, I continued arguing with him, telling him he was a hypocrite and I was blocking every reason he spews my way. It came to a point that I was already mocking him for his beliefs and his lack of consistency in them. And I’ll laugh when all he can use to reason out was “… it says in the Bible”. In short, we ended that conversation with a heavy heart. I distinctly recall feeling like I won that argument.

After a few days, I realized what I did. I hated other people pushing their beliefs on me, but I never thought, even for a second, that I was doing EXACTLY what I was accusing him of. Upon further contemplation about it, I sent him a message and apologized for how I behaved. I told him exactly what I realized. He didn’t say a word, and just accepted the apology. And I made him promise that it was the last time we’ll talk about our beliefs and religion.

And I believe that’s one of the major problems we have as humans. We don’t want other people shoving their beliefs down our throats when, unknowingly, we’re guilty of the same sin.

Throughout the years, I realized this as I continued to mature mentally and emotionally. When someone’s arguing with me about something I strongly believe in, I listen intently and ponder if I should respond. If I don’t find any reason to do so, I just let them believe they’re right. Or, I just change the subject altogether. *LOL*

TO EACH HIS OWN. An expression I’ve overused this year. And I intend to keep that in mind. I will continue to speak my mind, but when I’ve reached a point when I see it’s become senseless, I’ll shut up as a show of (feigned) respect. 😉

The X Factor USA : Why Carly Rose Lost to Tate Stevens

The X Factor USA

As I have predicted it, Tate Stevens won The X Factor USA over Carly Rose Sonenclar. I knew it’ll be a tight race between the two, but I sure was hoping Carly Rose will win in the end. I guess Tate’s sincere enjoyment of what he’s doing, his lovable personality, irresistible smile, and, of course, his amazing voice won the hearts of voters a thousand times over.

 

The X Factor USA Judges

This is actually my first time to watch The X Factor (didn’t even watch the local version). When I learned that Britney Spears will be judging alongside Simon Cowell, Demi Lovato and L.A. Reid, I just had to watch! I’ve been a fan of Britney ever since and I’ve looked forward to the day that I see her back on her feet again. Though most of her comments were a little generic, I think she did an awesome job! 🙂

The X Factor USA judges - Britney Spears, Demi Lovato, Simon Cowell and LA Reid

I honestly didn’t pay attention to Demi Lovato before even when I listened and liked some of her songs. This time though, I found myself agreeing many times to what she had to say. And I loved how feisty she was towards Simon. Hahaha! I think he finally met his match! Plus, I absolutely enjoyed her performance with Fifth Harmony. They rocked! 🙂

To be quite honest, I don’t like the format of The X Factor. I LOVE the concept of The Voice more than any other singing competitions on TV, but I love the unique arrangements of the songs on The X Factor. Most of them don’t work as well as the others. In the end though, I became a fan of the show, even with those awkward times when the hosts Khloe Kardashian-Odom and Mario Lopez (I have a big crush on him ^_^) will cut off someone still speaking just so they could continue with the show. 😀

 

The X Factor USA Finalists

Carly Rose vs Tate Stevens

I loved Carly Rose Sonenclar ever since she sang Brokenhearted, originally by Karmin (who I adore!!). Her voice is AMAZING and how she interpreted the song was just crazy!! Will.i.am put it quite well – ‘she’s like a little caterpillar. And you’d think she’ll turn into a butterfly, but then she turns into a dragon’. Well, not exactly (word for word) what he said, but you get the gist. Watch her video below and be awed! 😉

Week after week, I looked forward to Carly Rose’s performance. I think hers and Fifth Harmony’s are the only performances that I never skipped or fast-forwarded while watching.

Carly Rose Sonenclar should've been The X Factor USA winner

However, as the show went along, there were times when I feel like she thinks too much and every high note she hits is calculated. Still, she’s amazing with that very soulful voice. I’ve been rooting for her since the very beginning. I really wished and thought she’d win The X Factor USA Season 2 hands down, so I was surprised when Tate won.

 

Why Did Carly Rose Lose to Tate Stevens?

When I watched the finale night, I was looking forward to a Carly Rose victory. When I watched the last performances for the second time, I quite understood why Tate won. He seemed to really enjoy himself when he was performing, especially when he was on-stage with Little Big Town.

A lot of people say that LeAnn Rimes’ performance with Carly Rose cost the little diva the win, including her parents, but to be quite honest, I don’t think that’s the reason why she lost. It sure was funny that LeAnn Rimes thought Carly Rose needed HER help. She’s a good singer, but dang! She’s a mess! I wish they paired Carly Rose with Trisha Yearwood instead if they had to keep “How Do I Live” as her song for the duet.

LeAnn Rimes with Carly Rose at The X Factor USA finale

There were others who say that Carly Rose was a spoiled kid, which is just unfair and judgmental. She seems like a really good kid, quite mature for her age, so I don’t agree with their impression of her.

Another thing, Carly Rose’s competitiveness wasn’t liked by many. I’ve watched videos of her performances on Youtube and I’ve read many comments about her being too competitive. She needed to sincerely enjoy herself more. Considering she’s only 13, you’d think she’ll have more fun. But, her competitiveness really beats the kid in her. I still wish she won ‘cause she’s got the X factor. Her voice is incredibly beautiful!! 😉

Lastly, I think the young vote was split between Carly and Fifth Harmony. That’s why there should only be a Final 2 next time.

Tate Stevens, on the other hand, has this image of a family guy, a loyal and loving husband (I see a lot of women rooting for him just because of this!) and an older guy who considers THIS as his first and last chance to make his dreams a reality. C’mon, who wouldn’t vote for THAT guy, right?!

Tate Stevens is The X Factor USA Season 2 winner

One thing’s for sure – Carly’s got a bright future ahead of her and I’ll continue to be one of her fans! And I think she’ll even be more successful than Tate. Or maybe I’ll notice her more ‘cause of her genre. What do you think? 🙂

 

Fifth Harmony

Fifth Harmony – though I love them to death, I knew they couldn’t win over Tate or Carly Rose. But, dang! I am a BIG fan of these 5 ladies! Allyson Brooke Hernandez, Normani Kordei Hamilton, Lauren Michelle Jauregui, Karla Camila Cabello, and Dinah Jane Hensen — these are the names I’m sure we all won’t forget.

Fifth Harmony of The X Factor USA - the next girl group to watch!

I’m looking forward to Fifth Harmony’s career. As what Simon Cowell said during the early part of the competition, the music and entertainment scene in the US needs a new girl group. And I can’t wait to listen to Fifth Harmony’s own music! Woohoo! 🙂

I think this group is a very good role model for the young girls today. Mixed races, mixed personalities and even body types. They’re all lovable and seem to have be really good kids. That’s why I think, they’ll be very successful. 🙂

Now that The Voice (my #1 favorite singing competition on TV) and The X Factor USA are off the air, I can’t wait for American Idol. I’m not looking forward to the new judges ’cause I’m honestly tired of Randy Jackson, and I don’t like Mariah Carey and Nicki Minaj as his fellow judges, so I hope we can all focus on the talent. Are we going to see another Jessica Sanchez?! 😉

The X Factor USA : Why Carly Rose Lost to Tate Stevens

The X Factor USA

As I have predicted it, Tate Stevens won The X Factor USA over Carly Rose Sonenclar. I knew it’ll be a tight race between the two, but I sure was hoping Carly Rose will win in the end. I guess Tate’s sincere enjoyment of what he’s doing, his lovable personality, irresistible smile, and, of course, his amazing voice won the hearts of voters a thousand times over.

 

The X Factor USA Judges

This is actually my first time to watch The X Factor (didn’t even watch the local version). When I learned that Britney Spears will be judging alongside Simon Cowell, Demi Lovato and L.A. Reid, I just had to watch! I’ve been a fan of Britney ever since and I’ve looked forward to the day that I see her back on her feet again. Though most of her comments were a little generic, I think she did an awesome job! 🙂

The X Factor USA judges - Britney Spears, Demi Lovato, Simon Cowell and LA Reid

I honestly didn’t pay attention to Demi Lovato before even when I listened and liked some of her songs. This time though, I found myself agreeing many times to what she had to say. And I loved how feisty she was towards Simon. Hahaha! I think he finally met his match! Plus, I absolutely enjoyed her performance with Fifth Harmony. They rocked! 🙂

To be quite honest, I don’t like the format of The X Factor. I LOVE the concept of The Voice more than any other singing competitions on TV, but I love the unique arrangements of the songs on The X Factor. Most of them don’t work as well as the others. In the end though, I became a fan of the show, even with those awkward times when the hosts Khloe Kardashian-Odom and Mario Lopez (I have a big crush on him ^_^) will cut off someone still speaking just so they could continue with the show. 😀
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